There a time comes being in long term relation that out of frustration, or annoyance a person ask questions to itself whether he is on the right track or not.
Is this the person I will be spending rest of my life with?
Would I grow older with her, through all thick and thins?
Is that a perfect girl to be my first and last wife forever?
Is the woman capable enough to live with me for the rest of my life?
Scientists are always researching on different extremely complicated issues all over the world, one of them is on love and relationships, after spending umpteen hours on figuring out the best solution that how people fit together or what qualities of a man or a woman makes them live together.
Cutting the long short we have compiled the most important and interesting results.
If you find all these qualities in a woman than without thinking twice that woman is a perfect choice and a blessing to have as your life partner.
She must not be a dumb but smarter than you. And science agrees. Lawrence Whalley, professor emeritus of the University of Aberdeen has been researching dementia for a long time and he found that a smart woman can protect you from dementia later in life. His advice:”The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life but what he should do is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer than intelligence.”
Human beings are born to make mistakes and then get on the right track after learning from those mistakes.
Always have a partner who gets you back on the right track and tells you when you are wrong.
According to the studies a man always wants to have a long relationship, if she sticks with you in all circumstances, never let her go
Always look on the bright side than you have found the woman of your dreams, because negativity produces toxins which only results in hatred. This was shown in the research paper by the psychologist Elaine Hatfield. And this internalized negativity can lead to increased heartrate, it impedes our digestion and lowers our concentration.
When life goes smoother hurdles are sure to come on your way. It’s utterly normal and inevitable. Relation stands only when born sides compromises happily being contended. When you give something you also get something in return too. so, sacrifices are must to have a long and happy marriage.
Psychologist of the UCLA have accompanied 172 married couples for 11 years and came to a simple conclusion: “It’s easy to be committed to your relationship when it’s going well,” said senior study author Thomas Bradbury.”As a relationship changes, however, shouldn’t you say at some point something like, ‘I’m committed to this relationship, but it’s not going very well — I need to have some resolve, make some sacrifices and take the steps I need to take to keep this relationship moving forward.”
Laughs at your jokes:
We always want someone who laughs at our lame jokes.
In 2006 a study by psychologists of Westfield State University suggested that having a partner who thinks they are funny is more important for men than for women. If you have already found a woman you can laugh with, share your sorrows too then make sure to take good care of her.
A study by the University of Westminster suggests that people who are open hearted and share personal information are seen as especially attractive. The authors of the study even say that to be open hearted is a perfect gem, people find such persons more handsome or beautiful.
For a long time scientists tried to prove that men prefer to marry weak women. In her book “Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women”, Christine C. Whelan thoroughly debunks this myth and proves with statistics that successful, well educated and high earning women do not marry less often than others.
A strong woman always encourages you and tries to be independent. So you need not to worry about her.
This has been shown by a study of the University of Britrish Columbia You need a healthy combination of personal goals and goals you pursue together.
Researchers of the University Alberta questioned 2970 people of all ages and saw a clear correlation between the relationship to the parents in their teen years and their love life later on.
But this doesn’t mean that her relationship with her parents always needs to be perfect. “Understanding your contribution to the relationship with your parents would be important to recognizing any tendency to replicate behavior positive or negative in an intimate relationship,”author Matt Johnson writes. The only way to learn how to do better in other relationships is to be aware of those behavior.
Psychologist John Gottmann of the University of Washington started his research on married couples over four decades ago.
He identified two kinds of couples: Masters and Disasters. The disasters, you guessed it, break it off in the first six years of the relationship. But the masters stay together for a long time and always have this one thing in common:”They are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully,” he said in an interview with the “Atlantic”.
Remains calm in fights and calms you down too:
Never disagreeing is not a sign of a stable relationship of course fights are a part of life, bur how you deal with disagreements is important.
Researchers of the University of California Berkeley and University Northwest have accompanied 80 couples for 13 years and they found out that a relationship will last the longest if the woman can calm herself during a fight and transfer those emotions to the man. The effect is not the same if the man is the one to calm down first.
A long term study of university of Michigan with 4864 married individuals showed that the happiest couples where those who drank alcohol together. Of course this doesn’t mean that alcoholics are happier partners. “It could be that couples that do more leisure time activities together have better marital quality,” says Kira Birditt, author of the study.
Has a life of her own:To have own space privacy and things of interest is even more important than a relationship. This has been shown by a long term study of the University of Michigan. “When individuals have their own friends, their own set of interests, when they are able to define themselves not by their spouse or relationship, that makes them happier and less bored,” Terry Orbuch, author of the study, said in an interview with the “WALL Street Journal”
If you find a woman who just accepts you in all ways, then you should consider yourself lucky.
“An optimistic approach will rub off on you and attract you to others who are seeing the world as half full,” psychologist Terry Orbuch said in her column for the Huffington post
Does not bear grudges:
If a woman has a habit of forgiving others, ignore the pity matters, never pulls a long face. understands the situation maturely then she is the best.
A study by researchers of the Luther collage, The Duke University and Harvard Divinity School showed that people who can unconditionally forgive others live longer lives.But no one is perfect neither you. Forgiveness is the basics of a healthy relationship. Obviously there are times when you deliberately do something that hurts her. then you are suppose to make her able to forgive you.
Life is short to put off your decisions on morrow. If by a stroke of luck you find a woman who possesses all these above qualities or you are already in relationship than have her for the rest of your life and never let her go.